What I Learnt in Azerbaijan (Again)
I’ve been back from visiting my family in Azerbaijan for a couple of days now and still integrating the shifts and changes that happened in those short 10 days.
Perhaps, the key lesson I learnt (again) is how much we have in common as a family even when things look different from the outside.
It’s not something I could see with my conscious mind though.
It was in the course of doing constellations with my family that really tender pieces revealed themselves and brought us closer together.
If you’ve read my memoir, you know that my mum attempted to take her own life when I was little. We were doing the constellation with my mum to address her present-day challenges, when that energy of not wanting to be here presented itself.
I agreed to resonate with that energy and what transpired was that it was not even hers. She absorbed the death wish from my grandmother (who was practically half dead after her beloved son was killed at 23). But looking back at my grandmother’s life, I wonder if that death wish was already there long before. After all, her mother died when my grandmother was only 10 years old.
I’m sure that I can trace that energy further back through the generations, but I can also see how it was passed forward to me, my siblings and even our children.
By releasing that old ancestral energy, my mum had the courage to set us all free; not just us, her children, but also the new generations. We don’t have to carry it with her out of solidarity and our children can put that burden down too.
There was a point in the process where we lined up: my sister in front of me, I stood in front of my mum, and we invited the presence of my grandmother and great-grandmother behind my mother.
‘I feel relieved,’ said my mum.
My sister, who felt like she was carrying a massive boulder on her back, could finally let go of the weight and lean into me for support. The relaxation and relief were pulpable.
The effect of this work is astounding.
Each time I do this work with my family, my own life blossoms, because so long as one of us is trapped, we all feel it. Equally, so long as at least one of you does ‘the work’, everyone else feels the benefit.
It requires someone to say, ‘This stops with me.’
Are you that person?
P.S. You can now book your place in my 23-26 March in-person retreat in the gorgeous part of Devon. I use constellations throughout the weekend, and each participant gets to have an individual process, so by the end of the retreat, you’ll feel transformed. You can find out more about my retreats here: www.gularavincent.co.uk/retreats
P.P.S. I’m also offering a 3-hour masterclass ‘Already Enough’ on 13 December at 12:00-15:00 UK time. www.gularavincent.co.uk/already-enough
P.P.P.S. See that fire in the background? It’s a mountain that’s burning all by itself. For decades. I suppose they call Azerbaijan ‘The Land of Fire’ for a reason.
With all my love,
Gulara