Why it’s so hard to ‘just be seen’ - and how to heal it
I spent years thinking I was visible.
I was posting on social media.
There was a period when I was blogging every day.
I was offering sessions and writing my memoirs.
But underneath it all, there was a whisper running through my system:
“Don’t look at me.”
When I was preparing Hammer, Sickle & Broom for publication, my attention wasn’t on the people who might be inspired or empowered by my story. It was fixated on those I didn’t want to read it. I was terrified of being judged, misunderstood and exposed.
There was so much shame bound up in that fear of being seen. So many inherited patterns of keeping quiet, staying small, avoiding attention.
A lot of it came from my own lived experience (if you’ve read my books, you know).
But I also know now that I was carrying ancestral memories. Parental fears. Energies that weren’t mine — but lived in me.
No blame. No praise.
Just a tangle of invisible threads that said: Being visible is dangerous.
And so, I hid in plain sight, staying the best-kept secret in the healing world.
The wake-up call came when I did FB advertising a few years back. I hired an FB ad manager who was excellent and invested a lot of money into the campaigns. The results were underwhelming, to say the least.
So I invested in an exceptional FB ad manager, who, after my large investment, delivered... even more appalling results than the first one!
That was the point when I had to admit: it wasn't the strategy. It was my energy. I needed to heal this fear in me, if I wanted to make progress in my business.
That’s why I do the work I do now — helping healers and practitioners gently release what’s blocking them from being fully seen.
Because I know, firsthand: when I take off the mask and let myself be seen as I am, my whole system relaxes. And people see me in the ways that they couldn't when I was trying to get their attention.
You don’t have to force your way into the spotlight.
You can heal your way into visibility.
And when you do… You won’t just be seen — you’ll be felt.
My 5-day immersion starts today — and it’s designed to help you do just that.
If you’ve signed up already, I’m so happy you’re here. Check your inbox for a Zoom link later today.
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Warmest wishes
Gulara